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Being a lady in my 50s, and have been with my husband for decades. Throughout our marriage, we maintained a satisfying sex life, and I used to be able to climax vaginally very easily, frequently absent clitoral stimulation.

Amid a challenging period for our family several years back, my drive and capability to climax faded, but in time, both resurfaced. A few months ago, I faced a health crisis which somewhat affected my coordination on one side.

Despite my recovery very well, I am back to dealing with a loss of desire and intimate feeling.

We still engage in sex regularly, and I cherish the intimacy. I can climax with clitoral stimulation, yet the process is prolonged and can be almost physically painful.

I really miss vaginal orgasms and the satisfaction they brought. Despite being of perimenopausal age, I have no obvious symptoms, with hormonal screenings came back normal.

I’ve been very emotionally vulnerable and discouraged during my convalescence, leading me to question whether stress is the problem. Confidence in myself has been shaken by my physical disability, though my compassionate, supportive spouse always ensures I feel appreciated.

Ways Tension and Physical State Affect Arousal Patterns

Anxiety is commonly understood to affect a person’s sexuality at different phases, encompassing libido, climax capacity and physical arousal.

Fatigue and pain can also be underlying reasons, as can many types of medical issues or persistent circumstances.

Psychological issues or mood disorders including anxiety could disrupt a person’s ability to experience pleasure in sex, hinder intimate moments and even lead to sexual disorders.

Practical Steps To Restore Pleasure

These physical setbacks you have been undergoing could have affected your ability to orgasm as you used to, thus, consider seeking a doctor’s opinion to evaluate factors including sensory disruption.

It is also helpful to learn about potential sexual side-effects of any medications you may be taking.

Many share your sense of sadness and sense of loss at being unable to achieve your desired type of climax, yet through discovering and address the specific reason, you might regain that ability.

Given that the clitoral area is the most important pleasure centre in the majority of females, and “vaginal orgasms” usually result when certain postures enable optimum clitoral connection, testing out different positions that enhance sensitivity for best results.

Initially, focus on finding tools to handle your stress and begin using them regularly.

Central Message: Allow yourself time and explore both physical emotional avenues to reclaim your sexual health.